So, You Finally Have Time To Work On Your Biz… And Now, You’re Stuck
The dishes aren’t going to clean themselves, after all! 🙈
“I have this amazing idea for my business, I just never have the time to work on it.”
“I know what I want to do, I’m just too busy to do it.”
“I see the grand vision for my career and life, if only I had more time…”
“All I need is a few more free hours in my day to really take this to the next level.”
Sound familiar?!
Ever found yourself saying these things out loud over dinner to your significant other, friends, or mentor who supports you?
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Maybe by some miraculous turn of events you actually find yourself with those extra few hours you’ve been DYING FOR to get the train moving on your business, project, big idea and you get yourself all gussied up for it (if I look presentable, I’ll feel good), you make the coffee, sit down at your desk and… you freeze.
“Ok, I’ll just clear out my inbox first, catch up on the newsletters from everyone I follow first, you know, for the inspo…” you tell yourself as you start scrolling on through…
By the time the scroll ends, you realize you’re ready for a snack, and head on in to the kitchen, where you just happen to notice the sink full of dishes and how messy everything is.
Two hours later, your house is feeling clean and fresh, but you are no closer to making any moves at all on your project.
This happens to the best of us. Really, really, it does. Almost every single person I’ve ever worked with solo and in groups has mentioned this to some degree.
“I finally find the time, but I end up doing everything else around me first.”
It’s ok! This is normal! This is something we have to consciously overcome!
Why?
Because doing something so new and wild as to creating, building, and launching a business or a project is really hard on us - physically and emotionally. It’s hard on our nervous system!
Not only do we have to come up with an idea and semi-flesh it out to even get started, we then have to *create* the thing we’re going to sell, and then at some point, we have to *eeeeek* start putting ourselves out there to build an audience and get eyes on our work, so we can, in fact, run a business.
So, we have:
Come up with an idea and semi-flesh it out aka lots of brainstorming, thinking, daydreaming, visioning and planning PLUS believing in ourselves, having faith that we can do this, being kinda delusional honestly haha, and not talking ourselves out of it before we’ve even begun.
Create the thing aka figure out how to set up your business, maybe build a website (branding), maybe set up a newsletter system and template (branding, design, figuring out your voice and how you want to share), plan out your services or product PLUS having and holding the energy of discipline, showing up for yourself and your dreams, putting in work for free now in hopes of a pay day later, believing that your work is worth it, believing your idea is good, believing that you’re just as worthy as everyone else who does similar work, believing in yourself, and not letting the fears and resistances stop you.
Putting yourself out there aka sharing your work via social media, newsletters, in-person, podcasts, youtube, other people’s networks, flyers and ads PLUS the courage to put your face out there and talk about your work, what you believe in, and what you’ve created, the risk of opening yourself up to internet trolls, the risk of feeling embarrassed, feeling lonely and silly when no one is watching in the beginning, and the strength it takes to hold the faith long enough to keep going until you find success.
That is A LOT of physical, mental AND emotional work.
In my experience, the easiest and fastest way to self-sabotage yourself away from your dreams is by ignoring or not nurturing the deeply emotional side of creating - either a business, new project, career pivot, or whatever your new adventure is.
Because if we don’t work to consistently regulate our nervous systems while we work on and create something so huge as a new creative project or business, we will walk away the second we feel that imposter syndrome, feeling not good enough, not worthy enough, not smart enough, not big enough, not comfortable enough to put ourselves out there.
Our kitchens will be spotless, but our dreams will sit in an idea notebook forever, wasting away in the land of potential 🤣 (a bit dramatic, but you get the point).
If anyone ever tries to tell you that they got started on their journey to success by “I don’t know, I just went for it I guess” I am telling you, that is B.S. I guarantee it took a lot of behind the scenes personal nurturing, discipline, and nervous system regulation to feel safe enough to create, and safe enough to put themselves out there (whether they know it or not).
And truthfully? We’ll have to do this work again and again, with each new mountain we’re about to climb, and that’s perfectly ok. In fact, I’d like to normalize that in this space!
You’re going to need to sit and do the meditation before you create your first product, and then you’re going to need to do the EFT tapping before you post that reel, and then you will definitely need to say your mantras and do the breath work when you read your first hateful comment, and heaven help me you will need to bust out every tool in your tool box before you walk out on that Super Soul Sunday stage (because even Liz Gilbert was scared shitless before she went on Oprah, and Julia Roberts played her in a freaking movie, for crying out loud).
The dishes are the devil we know (lol). Growing our business is not. So, we run back to the dishes, where it’s safe and we know the direct path to the desired end result.
But, that just keeps us safe in our comfort zone.
And our comfort zone is never where we find our growth.
